Day 4: Love is thoughtful 10/14/2009
 How precious also are Your thoughts to me. . . .How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. —Psalm 139:17–18 TODAY’S DARE Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them. NIGHT BEFORE THOUGHTS This one I think will be fairly easy....although sometimes we don't really talk while I'm at work, I can take the five minutes out of my workday to do this. I do need to quick mention that at this present time I'm still on day 3 and Tony just THANKED me for a nice night. Wow. MY EXPERIENCE Well, I made it a point to call Tony a few times today, just to say hi and see how his day was going. Before I left work I called to see if there was anything he needed before I came home, then I stopped at the store and got it......Ok it was bread and cheese, but hey I got it LOL. I decided today that maybe God can help my marriage. Not to get all biblical and what not, but I was raised a Catholic but never felt like that was who I was. I hated the repetition of every sunday...stand, kneel, sit....etc. As I got older I found myself questioning different things such as why do I need to confess to someone what I've done wrong, when God himself knows if I'm truely sorry for my actions! Thru a WONDERFUL friend of mine who I am so lucky to have found, I've found comfort in slowly finding my "comfort zone" in just being a christian. I never expected to relate to a different "religion" per say, and not that I could ever see myself being a fanatic, or going to church all the time, but I do recognize a higher power, and find comfort and hope in what I've reading and listening to. The best website I've been on in relating to my marriage is called Focus on the family. Even if you're not a religious person their articles on marriage, and real life stories have helped me EMENSLEY! Ok, I'm done preaching LOL. Tonight my kindness and patience was once again put to the test as Tony had another outburst about some stupid thing.....I'm so tired of his yelling at Ry, and condesending tone towards me. I feel at times I need to remind him that he's my husband, not my father. About a year and a half ago Tony was diagnosed as Bipolar. He tried the meds, but they made him very drowsy, and for the job he has that's very dangerous. When you're 10 stories high in the air installing sheets of window glass I do understand the danger. But I also realize that we wouldn't have HALF the arguing, or problems with eachother if he could get his mood swings under control. At times he will admit he needs to go back to the doctor, but as fast as the thought came to him, it passes. I had a great friend thank me for being so honest, but isn't that what this is all about? If even one person has a situation like mine and can relate, then these personal posts of mine, even if they get too personal, are worth it to me. Commentstidbitsoftandem Thu, 15 Oct 2009 07:37:17 AWESOME! :) I'm wondering if this isn't a more powerful experience in the end if you do it alone first, then together. There's not the expectation or distraction of worrying about how well the other person is doing the challenges, and you can focus on making your own real progress/enlightenments and bring that to the couples table later... Thu, 15 Oct 2009 13:15:08 I'm so proud of you. It's awesome, isn't it? What a simple "Thank You" can do. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 18:33:35 My heart is overwhelmed and I am left speechless and in tears. This was an amazing blessing to my soul. All I can say is PRAISE THE LORD! Leave a Reply |  Why am I taking the challenge?
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